Going dutch, the dating practice where the bill is split 50/50 or each person pays for their own meal. In principle a great idea, but when it is time for the guy to pay for the full meal/date cost?
I thing that as a gentlemen, the first 3 dates should be dutched up. After the third date, it would seem to me that most couples would be exclusively dating by that time. If that is the case then on the fourth date the guy should be buying the dinner, movie tickets, the pieces of a meal that make up a picnic. By the way, picnics are generally very romantic, because of the ability to be alone with your boyfriend/girlfriend. I would avoid picnics for at least the first four dates, after that they are fair game. I would recommend if you live near the Gorge, in the state of Oregon, many of the waterfalls in the area would be a great place for a picnic. Back to the dutchness, sometimes the girl will still want to pay for a part of the date, I recommend that to prevent this, take the bill and pay it quickly, if you aren’t fast enough to grab the bill, in a sneaky way as possible, take her card/money out of the billfold and replace it yours your own. Preferably not one that you stole.
If you following these simple dutch tips, you should have a good start towards a gentlemen approved dates.
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DISAGREE. If the guy asks the girl out on a date, he should pay. She might offer to help, but he should otherwise expect to foot the bill. If it's like a friend-date where romantic intentions are ambiguous, or if it's a "testing the waters" type of thing, like if they drive separately and meet somewhere, payment is up for negotiation.
I've heard guys complain that the girl never offers to pay, but honestly guys... man up. If she asks YOU out, that would be an acceptable time for her to foot the bill. If you ask her out, you better be prepared to pay. For those times when you make plans together, you can go dutch, or negotiate.
so the guy shoudl pay for all the dates then. NO!, just the not the first 3 or after the wedding.
I agree with Rachel--on all of above.
Here's what I think. If the guy asks the girl out, he should expect to pay.
But if the girl offers to pay, decline once to see if she's just being polite. If she doesn't drop the idea of paying after the first time, you should offer to go dutch.
But remember, this could be an indication that she doesn't want to owe you anything, which is probably a bad sign.
Be safe out there.
Ray, I must disagree as well! The first few dates are super important, and if a guy wants to make a good first impression he better be taking care of it! Surely that's the true gentlemanly way to behave?
Think about it, if a guy wants to win a girl's attention and the two of them are not exclusive yet then he's competing against others & going dutch is not putting him in a good situation for first place.
Also, going dutch suggests friendly intentions and nothing more. So if you're truly interested, then taking care of the bill will say so. Perhaps some of this seems superficial, but I think later on when a couple does become exclusive going 50/50 is entirely acceptable and perhaps somewhat expected because it says I want to remain this way and I'll do what it takes to keep enjoying your company.
I could go on, but I think I'll end it there.
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